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The Bay Are Independent Publishers Association (BAIPA) selected The Approximate Parent: Discovering the Strategies That Work with Your Teenager (Fine Optics Press, 2012) as a winner of a 2013 Best Nonfiction Award (in the Parenting/Family/Relationships category).
BAIPA is a network of publishing resources, including authors, editors, designers, reviewers and many other professionals in the Bay Area independent publishing community. Each year they review and consider hundreds of titles for inclusion in their annual awards.
The Approximate Parent has won several independent book awards and is highly regarded by parents, clinicians and educators who work with teens. More information about the book can be found online at www.theapproximateparent.com or at Amazon.com.
Austin, TX--Michael Simon's innovative title, The Approximate Parent: Discovering the Strategies That Work with Your Teenager (Fine Optics Press, 2012, ISBN 9780985227692) was announced today as a winner in the Austin-based 2013 Reader Views Annual Literary awards. Simon's popular parenting title was selected in the non-fiction parenting/family/relationships category. Reader Views, founded in 2005 to support independent publishers and authors, announced all the winners on March 25 for its Annual Literary Awards. The awards were established to honor writers of self- and subsidy-published titles, along with those titles published by small press, university press, or independent book publisher geared for the North American reading audience. The Approximate Parent, reviewed by Reader Views earlier in 2013, was noted as a "5-star...must-read for all parents." While there are thousands of books on parenting teens, few if any aim to make the parent the expert on their own teenager. The Approximate Parent offers smart, practical ways of understanding the contexts of adolescent development in America—beyond all the “teen” stereotypes—helping parents reach wise approximations of what to do in the hard situations with their particular teenagers. The Approximate Parent’s approach is groundbreaking and commonsensical: it understands that “one size doesn’t fit all.” This respectful approach allows parents to understand both the current American culture of adolescents alongside their own particular teen's biology, temperament, and developmental challenges. This highly accessible and often witty book is informed by the latest research on adolescent brain development, effects of digital media on youth and identity formation, relationships, sexuality and trends in drug and alcohol use.
The Approximate Parent: Discovering the Strategies That Work with Your Teenager
Michael Y. Simon Fine Optics Press (2012)
ISBN 9780985227692 Reviewed by Susan Violante for Reader Views (1/13)
I must admit that I picked “The Approximate Parent” by Michael Y. Simon because although we are close, I was struggling to understand and communicate with my teen daughter, and hoped for some quick strategies. This is not what I found. Instead I found a wealth of information to enrich my knowledge on teenagers’ development process, which in turn helped me understand my daughter, and thus discover what could help us communicate.
“The Approximate Parent” begins with biological, psychological information about teenagers’ development, and differences between puberty and adolescence. I found this part a little intimidating at the beginning but I encourage readers to press through it as I found it very useful in the understanding of not just the coming chapters of the book, but also with understanding some of my teen’s behavior.
After this first part, the tone of the book is less technical. Simon did a wonderful job combining the factual information of his remarkable research with his own conversational voice directed to the parents, which allowed me to relate, relax and take in the information.
Each Chapter handles a different Issue. It begins with understanding your teen, their identity and relationships, and teens and sex, which are the timeless teen issues. But it goes further as Simon continues with issues like parenting through the digital era, and teenagers’ mental health. Each Chapter ends with a “Practical Help” section that readers can refer to quickly.
Simon took me from understanding that many of the responses from teens are not only normal, but they are to be expected, as they are part of their development. He destroyed my argument of “I was more mature at your age,” as he explained the fact that as humans we react to experiences in a very unique way because our genes and our experiences while growing up, do affect the way we develop. His chapter “Parenting in the Digital Age” is one of my favorites because as I read it I realized just how different teen’s brains work in contrast with how teens’ brains worked during the 70s, or 80s. Thanks to this Chapter, it finally clicked in my head how different my development was in comparison to my daughter’s generation. Finally, towards the end of the book in chapter 10, I got my revelation when I read “the story about a boy who did not swim from the dock to the draft as his mother tried to manipulate him to do so.” This story made me reflect about my own teen years, and compare them to my daughter’s to realize that it was the same situation, only now I was the Mom.
“The Approximate Parent” by Michael Y. Simon is a must read for all parents. However, it isn’t a quick read. It is an insightful guide, a tool that can make a difference in your parenting style to get results. A definite 5 star read in my book.