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About the Book
The Approximate Parent helps you translate what your teen thinks, feels and does into terms that make sense, so that you have practical ways of responding to the challenges of safely loving and supporting your teen from adolescence into early adulthood. No two teens are the same; this book aims to help you strategize wisely by taking into account both the current American culture of adolescents and your particular teen’s biology, temperament and developmental challenges.
This highly accessible, award-winning book is informed by the latest research on adolescent development, effects of digital media on youth and identity formation, trends in drug and alcohol use, and relationships and sexuality, drawing on work in such diverse fields as clinical psychology, cognitive neuroscience, epigenetics, sociology, anthropology, philosophy and religious studies.
In 2013 The Approximate Parent won both the Reader Views and the Bay Area Independent Publishers Association Book Awards in the Parenting/Family/Relationships Category.
Do You Love Bookstores, Too?
I have to admit to cringing when I hear people talk about the death of "traditional" reading or how "nobody" buys books at bookstores anymore. For those of you who still like the feel of a book in your hand and want to feel the turn of the page, I'm happy to have you visit one of these local Bay Area bookstores, below, who are carrying The Approximate Parent. While you're there, say hello to a fellow "nobody" who owns, works at or still shops at a real bookstore and help support independent booksellers...or ask your local bookseller to carry The Approximate Parent!
Books, Inc., (Berkeley; See above, Book Launch on August 2, 2012)
Book Passage (Corte Madera)
Laurel Book Store (Check back in early October for info on the Nov. 7th author event for The Approximate Parent)(Oakland)
Orinda Books (Orinda; say hi to Ginger the cat)
Pegasus Books (Downtown Berkeley on Shattuck)
Pegasus Books (Berkeley on Solano)
Pegasus Books (Oakland/Rockridge)
"Michael Simon knows more about teenagers than anyone I know. For years, he has been helping parents all over the United States in his popular speaking series on parenting adolescents. Now, inThe Approximate Parent, parents can benefit from Michael's unique perspective by reading his book. This is not a simple 7 Steps to a Happy Teen type of book, because Simon knows his subject matter too well, and has too much respect for parents to oversimplify something as constantly evolving as adolescence and as humbling as parenting. Combining ethics, philosophy, science, psychology and sociology, Michael has written a book that may forever change how you look at your teen, and at the same time, provide you with all of the tools you need to get them where they need to go. The Approximate Parent is a meticulously researched and psychologically solid book. I learned a lot and know that you will too. Highly recommended!
“If you are the parent of a teenager and you are paying any attention at all, you know that, besides dealing with the classic adolescent issues, your child is negotiating an environment that has been radically redefined by the new media—the internet, iPhone, Facebook world. If you are at all self-aware, you probably realize that you don’t understand that environment very well. There are plenty of media experts out there and plenty of parenting experts too – maybe too many - but, in Michael Simon, you have someone whose life’s work has been in media theory and adolescent development. He has mastered the literature in both fields and has been putting it all to work as a high school counselor and therapist for almost 20 years. That is an extraordinary qualification and, with every innovation in technological connectivity, it becomes more and more essential. The Approximate Parent is a brilliant synthesis of theory and practice, of research and application that aims directly at how teenagers actually live in this mediated world.”
“Parenting teenagers is a risky business that requires the development of healthy risk-taking skills for parents as well as adolescents. Michael Simon’s book, The Approximate Parent: Discovering the Strategies that Work for Your Teenager, offers an important blueprint for parents who want to learn these skills. This work underscores a way of parenting teenagers that promotes a parent’s abilities. Beginning with the skills and natural abilities that a parent possesses, he builds on them. Michael also recognizes that parenting teenagers is neither black or white nor good or bad. Instead, it is a process of growing closer—closer to your adolescent, yourself as a parent, and most important, closer to what works best for your relationship. Michael's non-dogmatic approach is truly heartening.”
"Blending a combination of keen insight, personal anecdotes and a plethora of scientific research on adolescent cognitive, social and emotional growth, Michael Simon, a psychotherapist and former high school counselor, arms frazzled parents with practical suggestions and time-tested intervention strategies. You may even begin to feel deep compassion for your teenager whose brain is under construction. And, also for yourself; for having to live in the construction zone, and act like ‘a grown-up’ as you try with all your might to be a healthy role model. The Approximate Parent is a multifaceted, illuminating read."
A new study by Pew Research (Social & Demographic Trends) released on March 7, 2014, revealed the ways Millennials—emerging adults, age 18 to 33—see and respond to the world around them. Pew Research has been following this age group for over a decade and while the results of the surveys are relatively consistent over time, they differ in some surprising ways from previous generations, Generation X, Baby Boomers, and the Silent Generation. (The parameters for each descriptive category are found here.)
The Bay Are Independent Publishers Association (BAIPA) selected The Approximate Parent: Discovering the Strategies That Work with Your Teenager (Fine Optics Press, 2012) as a winner of a 2013 Best Nonfiction Award (in the Parenting/Family/Relationships category). BAIPA is a network of publishing...
Review of The Approximate Parent: Discovering the Strategies That Work With Your Teenagers by Michael Y. Simon, LMFT Reviewed by Patricia Canestro, LMFT in The Therapist (Sept./Oct. 2013 issue). The Approximate Parent: Discovering the Strategies That Work with Your Teenager...